No More Personal Martyrdom

I wrote this a few years back, and have updated it since. I believed then as I do now, that it’s perfectly OK to put yourself first now and then. Why not? Your car won’t move an inch without gas in it, neither can you constantly give without “refueling” now and then. It doesn’t have to be that you clean out the bank and fly off to Vegas. It only means that it’s all right to do something nice for yourself now and then.

So in the spirit of being nice to ourselves now and then, it’s perfectly fine for you to do any and all of the following:

Take that last piece of pizza.

Watch the TV show YOU want to watch.

Turn up your nose at the burned slice of toast; throw it to the birds and make yourself a fresh one.

Go get yourself a manicure/pedicure/massage/bubble bath/whatever tickles your fancy.

Have an adventure.

Go see a movie you really want to see; don’t wait for someone else to agree to go with you–just GO.

Treat yourself to one of those fancy-schmancy lattes.

Go hide somewhere with a favorite book, and don’t come out until you want to.

Remember that funky ring you saw for $30? Go buy it and wear it.

Turquoise, red, purple and green tooled leather clogs? If you love them (more importantly, if your FEET love them), buy them before someone else does.

…and go and do all those things you want to do, but have been delaying in order to put someone else first.

And please note that I am NOT going to qualify all the above with some politically-correct statement about being responsible, blah, blah, blah–you know what I’m talking about. I know you’re not going to steal food from your children, spend the car payment money on a new pair of leather boots, etc. This is just a reminder that it is perfectly fine for you to make yourself Number One for a change.

You matter!