If you know or have small girls in your house, you will undoubtedly know all the words (or at least the chorus) to the wildly popular song by Elsa from the movie Frozen, “Let It Go”:
“Let it go, let it go
Can’t hold it back anymore
Let it go, let it go
Turn away and slam the door!
I don’t care
What they’re going to say
Let the storm rage on,
The cold never bothered me anyway!”
There’s truth in this song–whenever we make a positive effort to truly let go of whatever is bothering us, we can free ourselves from worry, doubt, fear and anxiety. It really is something that we can control. Say that you are a nervous driver on a route on which you haven’t traveled before. You are trying so hard not to make a mistake that you may end up going north when you wanted to go south.
Try this: the next time you are doing something you’re not sure you can do, repeat this at least 15 times: “I’ve got this; I can do this. I’m fine.” Just saying the words is relaxing and calming. Another relaxation technique is this easy one: take a deep breath through your nose, then exhale hard through your mouth. Repeat three times, and you’ll find that you feel refreshed and calm.
Another good calming and clearing technique is this: simply say out loud what you are thankful for. With this, even the seemingly negative becomes positive:
- NEGATIVE: “the kitchen floor has crumbs all over it!”
- POSITIVE: “I have food.”
- NEGATIVE: “the toilet needs cleaning.”
- POSITIVE: “I have a toilet!”
- NEGATIVE: “my kids are so loud and rambunctious!”
- POSITIVE: “my kids are healthy and happy and having fun!”
….and so on.
Believe it or not, we always have a choice to be in a bad or fearful mood or a happy and good mood. If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, just try changing your mood. If you put on a shirt that had a big stain on the front, chances are you would change it. The very same can be done with our moods. There have been many days for me where it seemed nothing went right; it appeared that I had the “reverse Midas effect”—instead of everything I touched turning to gold, it all turned to poo.
But even this can be changed with a simple phrase: “everything today is going to go GREAT!” Keep on repeating this until you start feeling better. And you will feel better! And if that doesn’t do it for you, just try singing that chorus from “Frozen;” it works!