It’s Not Your Body, It’s the Clothes!

Is there anything more soul-sucking than trying on clothes you bring so hopefully to the dressing room—and none of them look good? It’s so discouraging, and you walk out of there feeling terrible about yourself. It’s too easy to blame your body, saying you are:

  1. Too fat
  2. Too thin
  3. Too old
  4. Too muscle-y
  5. Too flabby
  6. Too wrinkled
  7. Too soft

…and the list goes on.

Well, guess what—the problem isn’t you; it’s the clothes; really, it is. As time consuming as it can be, just take the time to try on different kind of clothes. Don’t let yourself get upset by sizes (after all, who knows but you?); just keep trying on different clothing lines. You WILL find what works for you.

Do not make the mistake of buying clothes in the size you want to be; buy clothes that fit you right now. If you start feeling discouraged, walk away. You can shop another day. But keep at it until you find what works for you.

Also, if you find something you love but it’s too short/too long/too loose/too tight/whatever, find yourself a good tailor. It’s well worth it. I have one in town that I love, and she does a great job.

Funny story: the last time I was there, we got talking and I wasn’t paying attention. The end result was that one of the tops I wanted shortened came out too short; not her fault.

So I took the top to a fabric store, and found a spool of gorgeous white lace that was about an inch and a half in width. The top itself is royal blue and white, and I’m in the process of sewing that lace on the bottom of it. So not only will it be the right length, but now it’s unique and looks great!

It took me years to find my own style; I made the classic mistake of following fashion trends. Some just did NOT work for me and I looked ridiculous. Once I stopped caring what other people thought and stopped chasing the current fashions, I found what worked for me, and best of all, what I liked.

In my 40s, I stopped wearing shorts and sleeveless tops. First of all, I felt they no longer looked good on me, and secondly, I didn’t want to look as if I thought I was 20 again. I found that capri and ankle-length jeans and slacks worked well for me, and short sleeve tops were cool and comfortable, and did not expose any wobbly bits.

Also, please don’t ever feel you are “too old” to wear nice clothes. Again, I recommend reading up on my own fashion icon, Iris Apfel (below). She is 95 years old, and she wears what she loves and what looks great on her.

So, please, don’t give up on yourself. Believe it or not, there are the perfect clothes for you out there. Just take the time to look and try things on; it’s well worth it.

YOU are worth it.