It’s a simple enough thing to do; treat others as you would like to be treated. No one likes being yelled at, or spit on, or laughed at or anything else that makes a person feel awful. One of the many things my parents taught me was how to treat other people, even if someone did or said something awful to me. I was told that you cannot know a person’s heart, and if they are rude, they are probably hurting inside where no one else can see their pain.
To be honest, I was a real know-it-all when I was a kid. Looking back, I now realize that I just wanted attention. If some kid was mean to me or made fun of me, I learned to look at how that person lived his or her life. To my surprise, I found that the meanest bully was often sad and lonely. The only way they related to other people was to tease them or just be mean to them.
Sometimes it was hard to try to befriend someone who was just nasty to everyone. However, I still tried. In trying I found that most bullies were usually hurting inside. Being a kid, it was hard for me to not feel hurt when a bully turned on me. If I talked to them and tried to be friendly, I usually got laughed at and picked on myself. I finally figured out how to deal with it; I finally understood that that was the only way they knew about how to deal with people.
Much later on in life, I realized that you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped, but you can smile at them or say hello to them and let the chips fall where they may. I used to think that I could “fix” anyone who was hurting. Well, you can’t always do that, and if you do, sometimes it really backfires.
The way things are today, with all the politics and all the looting and everything else going on, we really need some kindness and self-care. We also could be more forgiving of others as well as ourselves. None of us is perfect. But we at least can be accepting of others, even if we don’t subscribe to how they live, vote, deal with others and so on. Treating others the way we really would like to be treated can make a huge difference in how we live.