Sadly, too many of us dwell on all the bad things that have happened to us or the dumb things we have done. Sometimes we think of them so much that it ruins all the good things that have happened to us. Hanging on to bad things gets us nowhere. All it does is make us feel worse all over again.
It took me years to figure this out, but I finally was able to let go of the bad things in my life. The “cure” is easier than you would think, too. When I cringe remembering something stupid I did years ago, I learned to say out loud: “I am not that person any more. I am better than I was.”
Strangely enough, that little mantra helped a lot. Looking back on things I should not have said or done, I realize that those things were teaching moments that I needed. We know that we are imperfect, but most of us try to do better and learn from our mistakes.
Sometimes, though, it’s hard to forgive ourselves. However, I’ve found a way to forgive myself that actually works. It will sound pretty funny, but I’ll tell you from my own experience it works.
So, here is how I banish those mistakes for good and all: take a small roll of toilet paper (about 2-3 pieces), and write down your mistake. When you’ve finished, ball it up and toss it into the toilet, then flush. That’s it; done and done. Strangely enough, it works. Not only will you feel that you have been forgiven, but it’s kind of fun to do anyway.
Try it out; it really does work!