If the title triggers something in your mind, you’re right: this phrase is from Monty Python and the Holy Grail. While the whole show is hilarious, there is that little phrase, “always look on the bright side of life” that sticks in your head. I’ll admit that in some areas of my life I have been a “doomer and gloomer,” and while it’s sort of satisfying, it doesn’t help at all.
So quite a while back, I decided to actually look on the bright side of life. It isn’t always easy, but surprisingly, it really does help. Example: this year I will be 69 years old; good grief! But on the bright side, all the dumb mistakes I made, all the crappy jobs I had, and the downright awful men in my life; that’s all over! At my age, I can laugh about it all; age really puts a new perspective on life.
This is not a bad thing being this age; not at all. We have lived through sorrow and grief; we’ve won, we’ve lost, and we have made mistakes and learned lessons the hard way. We have laughed and cried, and we have come to a place where we can forgive ourselves. We have learned on the way that we are imperfect beings, but aren’t we all?
So, looking on my own bright side of life, here are my truths:
- I don’t have to go to work any more.
- I don’t have to pretend that I am more than I am; who I am is enough.
- I don’t need to impress anyone.
- I can wear all the jewelry I want; I really don’t care what others think anymore.
- I am finally in my own skin and I’m happy with it.
- I don’t have to answer any questions I don’t like.
- I don’t have to be right about anything.
- I can eat a cookie at midnight and not feel guilty.
- I don’t need to explain myself to anyone.
- I can embrace my age and be happy with it.
- I don’t have to be exactly like my mother.
- I can finally forgive myself and others.
So there we have it; we actually DO have control in our lives; it’s all how we look at it. I’m going to just keep on looking on the bright side of life.