Seeing that the end of 2019 is coming fast, it’s a time to remember everything that happened during the year. For me, it’s always about the mistakes I’ve made. I get it—we’re all human and we all make mistakes, but still I wish I’d spent this year with more gratitude and less mistakes.
At this time of year I always find myself wincing about this, that or the other thing I should have done but didn’t. You know how it is; the old “shoulda, coulda, woulda.” We always are our worst enemies and don’t always give ourselves the credit we deserve. We are not always the bad guy, so at the end of this year it’s a good time to remember all the good things that we said or did.
Believe me, if you just look back, you’ll find things that you did that were good. You didn’t always make mistakes, you weren’t always wrong, and you were always too hard on yourself. It’s perfectly ok to pat yourself on the back now and then. I’ve learned the hard way to accept my mistakes and try not to make them again.
That said, a new year is coming soon. I gave up making a list of things I should do in the new year; let’s face it: every single day is a new day. We can decide to do better, be better, forgive ourselves and forgive others. The new mantra I myself have for this new year is this: “I’m not perfect, but I’m not bad, either. I’m doing all I can to be kind, to put myself in the other person’s shoes, and to forgive and most of all; forget.”
No matter how many mistakes we’ve made, we are still good people. Let’s not forget that, and let’s forgive ourselves before we forgive others. My own hope and prayer for this coming year is this:
- less talking, more listening
- less blaming, and more forgiving
- more laughter and less tears
- more kindness and less blaming
- more love and less finger-pointing
- less trying to make people think what we think
- more acceptance
- more smiling
And the list can go on and on. My wish and my prayer for this coming new year is that we at least try to see the other person’s point of view. We don’t have to agree with them, but we don’t have to argue or fight with them, either. I remember reading some good wisdom about arguing or fighting: “To avoid arguing or fighting, keep your tongue pressed firmly againt the roof of your mouth.”
It couldn’t hurt.