Actually, there is nothing wrong with you; you are who you are and are all you are meant to be. You are here for a reason and a purpose; you may not know exactly what the reason and purpose is right away, but trust me: you are absolutely supposed to be here.
*Please don’t compare yourself to others; if you were able to read minds, you would probably be gobstruck to know that all the “beautiful people” feel just as wrong as you may feel. Oh, you can be a famous movie star, have tons of money, several beautiful homes all over the world, more cash and jewelry and fame than Elvis Presley—and you can still feel like you don’t fit in or feel good about yourself.
Just imagine a world where everyone looked the same; fabulously gorgeous from head to toes. Don’t you think that, after a few weeks that would become so usual as to be nothing special? For those of you who remember Rod Serling’s the “Twilight Zone,” the “Number 12 Looks Just Like You” episode: in a future society, everyone must undergo an operation at age 19 to become beautiful and conform to society. One young woman desperately wants to hold onto her own identity, but eventually she gives in to the “norm.” Even as a child, that episode was creepy!
Personally, I am sure that most of us on the planet have times when they worry that they are not fitting in or feel wrong; it’s easy to feel inadequate. But I believe with all my being that we are all here for a purpose; we may not know what that purpose is, but it is there all the same.
How many times have we had a kindness given to us that we have never forgotten? A very dear artist friend of mine was food shopping years ago, and she needed something high up on a shelf. Another friend of mine I’d gone to school with was also in the store, and happened to come down the same isle. My friend asked her if she would kindly pull down the item that she could not reach, and my school friend did it.
My artist friend gave my school friend a beautiful pair of her handmade earrings as a thank-you. Mind you, this was years ago, and my school friend still talks about it and how thrilled she was to have been gifted with a pair of my artist friend’s gorgeous earrings.
These seemingly little acts of kindness and appreciation make an impression that can last a lifetime. We may never know that we are walking amidst people who feel terrible about themselves; those feelings are nothing we can see. But a kind word, a thoughtful gesture, a genuine smile—these can make a huge difference in someone’s life. It’s an affirmation that you matter and you are fine just as you are. There is nothing wrong with you.
*I’ve done this so many times and what has it done for me except feel worse about myself? There was nothing wrong with me, and there’s nothing wrong with you either. Be who you are; you are priceless and important.