It’s taken me years to figure this one out; when something doesn’t go your way, it’s a message. The message may be that you don’t need that something going your way. The message may be an answer to a question. Or the message might just be telling you that things change and sometimes we need to change ourselves. There’s no sense to piss and moan about it (trust me; I’ve spent way too much time years ago pissing and moaning over stuff that turned out to be doodly-squat); crap happens and you just have to roll with it. Just don’t roll in it.
Case in point: my car has been in the shop for nearly a week (waiting for the new struts to come in, wouldn’t you know), so the Crankee Yankee has been driving me around. I had a hair appointment today but the Crankee Yankee is helping out a friend today and that can’t be re-scheduled. I was about to start pissing and moaning about it, but luckily I stopped myself short. My wonderful hairdresser understood and re-scheduled me out for two weeks.
Then I remembered: I have been trimming my hair for years now. Granted, I cannot do any where near as well as what my hairdresser does, but it’s enough to get by. It’s really not a big deal; what, is the whole world going to notice that I am shaggier than usual? Probably not, and so what.
Then there is delayed gratification. The Crankee Yankee kindly gave me a gift card for my birthday to be used at one or both of my favorite places; T.J. Maxx and Marshalls. We were actually at Marshalls yesterday and I was still browsing when the Crankee Yankee came in and told me that the thunderstorm we had heard about was now on the way, and we needed to get home. No worries; that just means more lovely anticipation. How great is that?
Funny how, when you get older, things that used to be so upsetting now turn out to be just a little flash in the pan. Big deal. Often delayed gratification can be a gift in itself. You think of what you wanted to do but couldn’t at the time—then you have all that lovely experience of finally getting to do it. Actually, it makes it more fun.
And seriously, change doesn’t have to mean the end of the world as we know it. It could even mean a better world! So in the end, what can be a change of plans can turn out to be a better change of plans. As Professor Dumbledore from the Harry Potter books and movies would say, “not to worry.”