Today is the Crankee Yankee’s and my 17th wedding anniversary. It’s hard to believe it’s been that long, but somehow it feels like we have been together for a longer time. Funny isn’t it how time goes by?
I first met the Crankee Yankee when I was 25 and he was 26. He was engaged to be married to his first wife, and I remember thinking, “wow, what a catch!” It turned out that he and his wife made their home in Goffstown, and I lived about four houses down from them. We were all friends, and when their daughter, Adria, was born, I was the first non-family member to hold her.
Years went by. I married my first husband when I was 36, and quickly realized that I had made a huge mistake. I had been fine living alone, and quite frankly I wasn’t sure if I would ever get married. I actually had had three proposals prior to my first marriage, but I just wasn’t ready at the time. At age 36, I thought that I had better get married. It seems funny now, but at the time I felt like my “sell-by” date was expiring.
Long and boring story short, it was a bad marriage. I found out that my husband was cheating on me; that was the end. I got a divorce and was on my own. By this time the Crankee Yankee had also been divorced. I got a phone call one evening; he was in my area and wanted to know if he could take me out for dinner.
You never really know when the love of your life will come to you. I made a lot of mistakes with the men I dated, and especially the one I married first. After my divorce I adopted a “never again!” attitude, and was fine with the idea of living alone for the rest of my life. I felt that marriage just wasn’t for me, and I was fine with that.
Then one night the Crankee Yankee called me, and asked me to marry him. In the micro-second it took for me to run through all my excuses for marriage, I said yes. It was just as though my better angels all got together and whispered say yes! in my ear.
So here we are, 17 years later. Of course we have our ups and downs; what couple doesn’t? But for the most part we are partners and lovers and grandparents and we laugh a lot. It’s been a great 17 years, and I will take all the years ahead with the Crankee Yankee, the love of my life.