As an accomplished worrier for many years, I can tell you that you can get so wound up with worry that you can lose sleep, get sick, break out in hives, and so on. Worrying affects us head to toe, inside and out, and really doesn’t do one good thing for us. I used to have terrible sleep habits because of worry until I discovered a way to re-direct it.
If you have read “Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert, you may remember her “island.” When troubled, she imagines herself as an island with only one port. There is a sign on the port that reads something to the effect of “if you are coming into this port with problems, pain, worry, anger, fear and negative energy, you can just turn yourself right around and go back where you came from.” (Sorry, I don’t have the book in front of me so I am not quoting correctly.)
Just this image made a huge difference in my night-time worrying. Oh, I would think of all the “what ifs” such as the house burning to the ground, a hurricane tearing the roof off the house, the cats escaping, and so on and on. That kind of thinking kept me awake and sick with worry. And for what? Of course terrible things can happen; they can happen at any time for any reason.
But, how about this: if we do what we can to be safe, sensible, honest, healthy, happy, etc. (and, of course, my own favorite: locking all doors) then perhaps bad things may pass us by; they may or may not. But then there is this: what if the best things happen? Why not? Aren’t we worthy of having good things happen to us? Oh, I don’t mean winning a gozillion dollars on a scratch ticket (although, that too is possible); I mean just good things happening such as finding that someone left you the last delicious cup cake. Or you got a surprise gift from a friend. Or someone tells you that you look beautiful.
So, why wouldn’t we be worthy of having good things happen to us? Positive thoughts can become positive actions with positive outcomes. If we have no control over what may happen, then why worry? Wouldn’t it be better to just assume that the best will happen? Just that little thought made all the difference for me. Perhaps it will for you as well.
Keep your “island” safe and positive. It’s your island; you make the rules.