If you are lucky enough to find your “person” in this life, you know what it is to love someone deeply, truly and honestly. It’s said that “the heart wants what the heart wants.” When we fall in love, we are helpless to keep our emotions grounded. We can’t always explain what it is about that person that attracts us.
It is as though your heart has reached out and grasped the heart of your loved one, as they have grasped your own heart. You get that “this is IT” moment. You have made that heart-to-heart connection and there is no denying it.
It’s quite a lot like discovering a new friend. The longer you sit and talk with this person, you develop a kinship, an affection, a joyous feeling of friendship and shared values. Our minds sort of reach out to each other, and often you may find that you are each finishing each other’s sentences.
Years ago I worked with a wonderful man who was sweet, funny, smart and became a good friend to me. He loved to organize “lunch meetings” and would decide what venue or restaurant we would go to for a fun lunch. Our friendship went on for years.
One evening I got a phone call from him. He asked me if I was sitting down, and I said that yes, in fact I was. He told me that he had just come out and let his family and friends know that he was gay. For some reason, this didn’t surprise me, and I was glad for him. When you discover the essential “you,” it is always a wonderful thing.
Years later, the Crankee Yankee and I attended his wedding to the love of his life. When we met him, we knew he was perfect for our friend in every way. The ceremony was absolutely beautiful, and all of us, gays and straights alike, were shedding tears of joy.
The Crankee Yankee, who has never had issues with gays, male or female, went up to the two men after the ceremony. He said, “when I see you two, I see love. I see two guys who are in love and are happy.”
Quite frankly, I think that’s all any of us want; male, female, gay, straight or transgender. Love is love is love, and when we feel that pull to another person, we are forever in love, and forever blessed.