Monthly Archives: July 2017

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Does Anyone Remember Car Talk?

Does anyone remember the NPR radio show, “Car Talk?” It was (and still is) a call-in show where people asked car questions of the two hosts, Tom and Ray Magliozzi, known also as “Click and Clack, the Tappet Brothers.”

I used to listen to this on my way to work years ago, and I can’t tell you how many times I nearly ran off the road laughing. Listeners called in with questions about everything vehicle-related, and often the callers were even funnier than the Magliozzi brothers.

What really made me laugh was their list of “staff members.” Here are just some of them; I hope that they make you laugh as much as I have!

IMPORTANT NOTE: Say them out loud.

I will be posting more of these here and there. Oh, and here are two of the Crankee Yankee’s favorites I promised I’d publish along with the rest:

Dr. Ben Dover and his male nurse, C. Howard Feels…..

Car Talk’s Lesser Known Staff Credits
British Hospitality Advisor Tina Crumpet
Customer Service Specialist Begonia Payne-Diaz
Plumber’s Crack Apologist Lucy Lastic
Obsessive Yard Care Specialist Moses Lonergan
 

Car Talk’s Official Staff Credits
401K Statement Analysts Douse and Burnham
Accounts Payable Administrator Imelda Czechs
Aegean Caterer Sue Flockey
Accounts Payable Clerk, Moscow Office Dasha Chekhov
Accounts Receivable Supervisor from the Mumbai Office Vishnu Payup
Airline Seat Tester Wilma Butfit
Air Traffic Controller Ulanda U. Lucky
Alaskan Prenuptial Advisor Rush Inuit
 Alignment Inspector  Lou Segusi
 Alternative Fuel Consultant  Amanda Livering Cole
 Anger Management Coach  Kirsten Hollered
Appointment Secretary Stu Earley
Appointment Secretary II Amadeus O. Early
Arbitration Expert Viola Fuss
Art Critic Phyllis Steen
Art Critic II Dot Snice
Asphalt Contractor Luciano Pavearoadi
Assistant Director of Moral Support Hugo Gurll
Assistant to our Make Up Artist Gladys Radio
Assistant to the PR Specialist Lotta B. Essen
Audience Counter Hugh Wake
Audience Estimator Adam Illion
Auto Seat Tester Fitz Matush
Bad Joke Interpreter Nadia Geddit
Bail Bond Provider Freida Gogh
Biblical Scholar Vera Lee Isay
Bob Dylan Specialist I. Shelby Released
Book Critic Odessa Paige Turner
Breathalyzer Administrator Eureka Garlic
Broadway Reviewers Ike and Stan Musicals
Brother in the Military Major Payne-Diaz
Bungee Jumping Instructor Hugo First
Broadcast Philosopher Phillip Airtime
Cabinet Maker L. Ron Cupboard
Caffeine Addiction Counselor Bruno Moore
Car Talk Ice Rink Manager Sam Boney
Car Talk Opera Critic Barbara Seville
Chairman, Federal Lubrication Board Alan Greasepan
Chairman, Math Dept. Horatio Algebra
Chicken Soup Provisioner Kent Hoyt
Chief Accountant Candace B. Rittenoff
Chief Legal Counsel Hugh Louis Dewey of Dewey, Cheetham & Howe
Children’s Music Programmer Al Lowetta
Cliché Monitor Saul Wellingood
Co-Chairmen of Apathy Study Group Ben Thayer, Don Thatt

*From Wikipedia: “Car Talk is a Peabody Award-winning radio talk show broadcast weekly on NPR stations and elsewhere. Its subjects were automobiles and automotive repair, discussed often in a humorous way. It was hosted by brothers Tom and Ray Magliozzi, known also as “Click and Clack, the Tappet Brothers.”

“The show was produced from 1977 to October 2012, when the Magliozzi brothers retired. Edited reruns (which are introduced as The Best of Car Talk) continue to be available for weekly airing on NPR affiliates, although in July 2016 the network announced its intention to end the broadcasts after September 30, 2017.“

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Chasing Fearzola Away

Quite a while ago, I wrote about “Fearzola.” Fearzola was inspired by a dear friend of mine; he is the embodiment of our worst fears. No one ever likes to have him around as he is so negative and causes worry wherever he goes. He can keep us up at night, worrying about all the things that might happen until we feel as though we have a nest of angry bees in our heads.

My friend suggested that, instead of slamming the door in his face and staying up all night worrying, that we simply invite him in to hear what he has to say. More importantly—why he might be saying it. Remembering that greatly helped with what happened the night before last.

Someone stole our two sawhorses we keep behind our vehicles that we park on our side of the street. To make sure that people see them at night, the Crankee Yankee mounted a flashing light on each one, as well as a “Cat Crossing” sign on one, and a “Skunk Crossing” sign on the other. Since many cats and skunks cross our narrow road, we hoped that the signs would remind drivers to slow down.

It isn’t about the sawhorses themselves (they were pretty old and shoddy, but did the trick) or the $3 signs. It’s the fact that someone stole from us. This upset me on many levels; did this mean the beginning of some kind of neighborhood reign of terror? Are we being ‘warned’ by someone who doesn’t like us? Is this a beginning of more robbery or damage to be done?

This little robbery is pretty small change, but I still called it in to our police department. The officer who showed up was supportive, kind and courteous. He told us that we are well within our rights to park on our side of the street, and felt that the sawhorses and lights were a good idea, especially at night. He felt that the robbery was either just some kids pranking, or that someone is angry at us for causing them to slow down when driving on our street.

So why don’t we simply park our vehicles in the driveway? Our driveway is currrently filled with crushed stone, a Bagster, and a homemade work table for the Crankee Yankee. I asked him if he would consider moving that last to the back yard, and he agreed, and did it. I then asked him if he would consider parking the truck (which is bigger than my car) in the driveway to make it easier and perhaps less angry-making to those who travel on our street (usually much too fast). We are still debating that one. But for now, my car is in the driveway.

I am a peace maker, and I don’t like arguing and fighting. I try hard not to provoke anyone, especially considering how angry everyone seems to be right now. However,the fact that this very minor thievery happened disturbs me and makes me angry.

Luckily, the same dear friend of mine helped me through my initial anger and fear. What I learned from her is to stop and take a good, long look at the fear, anger and frustration: hear it. Own it. Live it. Feel it. Doing these things helped me to level out, and see the situation clearly. When things like this happen, it is a violation of our nerves, our peace of mind, our faith in people, and our own vulnerabilities.

It was only two old and beat-up sawhorses and two $3 signs. But it initially felt like a violation of my peace of mind, not to mention my already-shaky faith in people. However, I decided that I will not let this make me fearful. I will not let this destroy my peace of mind, or let fear keep me in the house 24/7 to watch over it.

And yes, we are going to get more sawhorses and more signs. As far as I know, this is still a free country. And grumpy old Fearzola can take a hike.

 

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Just Say “Thanks…”

I don’t know about you, but years ago if I got a compliment on my outfit, I would say things like, ‘oh, this old thing? I’ve had it for years!’ Now if you were the one giving the compliment, would that response make you want to compliment me again? Not likely.

If someone is nice enough to admire your hair, your necklace, your clothing, your shoes, anything; just smile and say ‘thank you.’ That’s all that’s needed. Break it down: someone loves what you’re wearing so much that they want you to know how great you look in it. You smile at them and say, “thanks!” Easy-peasy; compliment given and accepted; everyone’s happy.

A compliment is a sweet gift, and a thank you is a nice acknowledgement. Many times we question the validity of a compliment; are they being condescending; do they really mean it? It easier to just acknowledge the compliment and try not to put any hidden agendas behind it.

We don’t need to make a meal out of this; just smile and say ‘thank you.’ Think of it this way: it makes you both happy. Even if you feel insecure about your looks, clothing, etc., just say a gracious ‘thanks’ and let it go at that.

So in this vein, thank you to everyone who reads my posts; I appreciate it!

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Common Sense Self-Defense

These days rarely a day goes by without us hearing about home invasions, random killings, stores robbed at gunpoint, abduction, rape, theft; you name it; it’s in the news. I think we all hope that nothing like this ever affects us or our loved ones, but you never know.

Years ago I taught self-defense and gave seminars throughout New Hampshire and Massachusetts. I taught men, women, teenagers and children. The point of it all was to raise awareness about how to keep ourselves safe and be aware of what is going on around us.

This post is part of a series of self-defense tips I plan on putting up on this blog now and then. My hope is that it will help and not scare anyone. Today’s post is about having your own self-defense plan and being aware of your surroundings.

Part 1: Have a plan

A large part of self-defense is having a plan. If you think ahead, you can plan ahead. When you prepare, it takes a lot of the guesswork and fear away. In your spare time, think up possible scenarios that might happen. Don’t let this scare you! Let it help you prepare by focusing on what you can do to protect yourself. This will change the fear of “what if this happens” to “what I’ll do if this happens.”

The following are some possible situations and actions: 

POSSIBLE SITUATION POSSIBLE ACTION
You are stopped at a red light in traffic, and someone approaches your drivers’ side and tries to open the door. Make sure that your car doors are ALWAYS locked, no matter how short the commute! In this case, blow your horn, shout, and make all the noise you can. You want people around you to see what’s happening. This may be all you need to scare off a would-be attacker.

 
Someone approaches you as you walk out to the parking lot toward your car. For no reason you can name, you become afraid. Listen to that inner voice that’s telling you to be afraid! Try to get a vehicle between you and the other person if you can, and shout “FIRE!” as loud as you can. (Sadly, few people will respond to “HELP!”) Create a scene. Anyone wanting to hurt you will not want a lot of people to notice.

 
You are home alone, and you think you hear someone breaking in. Call 911 immediately, and tell the operator your name and address and that you have a prowler. If you can, leave the phone on so that the operator can hear what’s going on while help is on the way. Don’t ever assume that this is “probably harmless;” don’t take chances with your life.

If you own a gun, have it loaded and ready to go. Be sure that you have practiced using it and know what you’re doing.

NOTE 1: Obviously, if you have children in the house, lock it and the ammunition up.

NOTE 2: Check with your local police to find out if/when they give a course in self-defense and/or how to protect yourself in your home.

If you don’t have a gun, have something in every room in your home that you could use as a weapon. Remember, you want to stop or at least slow down an attacker so that you can get away, and/or call for help.

REMEMBER: Be prepared; not scared.

Get the idea? Now start thinking and planning; you’ll be amazed at how being prepared will make you feel less afraid and more in control.

Part 2: Don’t be a victim

No one, no matter how much karate they know, or how many guns and knives they carry, is completely safe from attack. But we all stand a much better chance of avoiding attack if we learn how NOT to act like a victim. Statistics prove that many victims of violent crimes act like victims. These are people who:

  • Don’t seem to know where they are going
  • Fumble with car or house keys
  • Appear to be “tuned out” to the world around them
  • Wear headphones while jogging, walking, or biking – they are not paying attention to who or what is around them
  • Walk around talking on a cell phone and not paying attention to who is nearby

If you are guilty of any of the above, or indeed ANYTHING that takes your attention from where you are and what is around you, you need to make some changes. You may think that you are still paying attention while otherwise engaged with something like talking with your friend on a cell phone, but studies prove otherwise.

You can change yourself from being a potential victim to a non-victim by:

  • Knowing where you’re going – keep your posture straight and eyes open. This gives off an “I’m in control” vibe.
  • Having your keys ready in your hand before you actually need them; you won’t be fumbling at the door, but will be able to get right in.
  • Being aware of where you are at all times; pay attention to your surroundings at all times.

The next self-defense post will be about fighting back if you get into a situation, and some “common sense self-defense.”

 

 

 

 

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The Participation Award Syndrome

I taught Tae Kwon Do for years, and each fall we joined with other karate studios in the yearly tournament. The black belts refereed each event for all age groups. The trophies were lined up on stage; grand champion, first place, second place, third place, and the participation trophies.

It was an all-day event, and for weeks I and my two co-instructors drilled our students on how to introduce themselves to the judges, and what was expected of them during their events. The whole idea of the tournament was to meet students and teachers from other karate studios, and to make it a friendly and get-to-know-you experience.

During each class we drilled our students in every event, and made a point of telling them that, if they wanted a first place trophy, they had to earn it. We told them to do their best, and to prepare themselves mentally for the tournament. Anyone who wanted extra coaching got it.

We also discussed what it was like to work hard for first place, and that sometimes we have “off” days and don’t do as well as we wanted to. We told them repeatedly that practice and preparation were the keys to being ready mentally and emotionally.

However, each year as always, there were winners and losers. Many of our students truly tried their best, but fell short anyway. Sometimes it was plain old nerves that defeated them, sometimes they hadn’t prepared themselves well enough, sometimes it just wasn’t their day.

It was difficult for the kids who had really put their heart and soul into training to come home with a participation trophy. This trophy was simply something to take home to say that you were part of that year’s competition. The kids of course were disappointed, and I can’t count the times we would sit with them and go over their performance.

What we heard the most was, “but I tried my best!” It was very hard to tell them, gently, that even when you do your very best, there can always be someone else who is better or who just practiced more. We told them that you don’t always win; that’s just how life goes.

What these kids didn’t realize at the time was they had just learned a major life lesson; sometimes you don’t win. Nearly each one of the kids who went home with only a participation trophy came back stronger the next year. Many of them took first place because they worked as hard as they could. They remembered how it felt to lose, and they didn’t want to have that happen again.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with a participation trophy. It can be an affectionate reminder that you took part in an event that meant a lot to you. All of the schools that took part in the yearly tournament agreed that we should have participation awards so that everyone would have something to take home.

This isn’t a bad idea, but these days we have become a nation of “everybody wins” and everybody gets an award just for showing up. In fact, there were many of us that disagreed with having participation awards at our tournaments. We argued that part of life is losing now and then, and you must learn how to deal with disappointment. This is how life goes, and losing can be a great teacher.

Personally, I feel that that this “everybody wins” syndrome is not helping our kids learn how to deal with life. Each time you do your best and fall flat on your face, you learn something. It’s a tough lesson, but as we said to all our students who came home with participation awards, “did you learn from this?”

Trying and failing is part of life. Nobody wins all the time. You may practice ten hours every day, tell yourself that you are a winner every minute of the day, and keep focused on your goal—and still lose. Things like this make us stronger. Things like this help us grow. Things like this make us more focused. Things like this actually make us better people.

My hope for kids today is that the participation trophy in their room makes them more determined to be better and acts as a reminder that they are worthy of trying; even if they fail.

 

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“What’s the Point?”

I’ve heard more people say, “you’re born, you live, you die; what’s the point?” What’s the point?! The point is that we have been given life and a finite time in which to live it. The point is that no one has ever been like us, or ever will be again. The point is that there is only one of us. The point is to live this life the best way we can.

Certainly there are parts of our lives that have or will give us pain and misery. There may be physical or mental or spiritual damage we have to endure. We will lose people and pets along that way that we cherish, and feel bereft without them. Terrible, awful, horrible and hurtful things can happen to us. We can’t know what’s coming in our lives; all we can know is what’s in the NOW.

The Now is all we really have, and the whole point of that is to be fully present in it. That is the point of this life we have been given. Even if we have long stretches of hours and days where we may only breathe, eat, sleep, watch TV, play games on our devices, or just sit staring at the wall—the point is to appreciate that time.

Like every other person on this planet, I have and do spend a lot of time worrying about what might happen instead of staying in the moment. I lose sleep worrying about things that may never happen to me; and yet, I still worry.

Someone I once knew had an uncle who was told by a fortune teller to stay away from airplanes. She told him that an airplane would end his life, so he never flew anywhere.

Guess how he died: he was walking in a field, and an airplane was passing overhead. For some reason, a panel on the side of the airplane came loose, fell on him and killed him. What are the odds? Was this foreordained or just something random that happened? What was the point of that? Who knows?

What I do know is that I am right here, right now, and I am doing my best to live in the moment and be in the moment. That’s not easy to do when you have spent a goodly chunk of life worrying, but I’m trying to change.

So yes, it’s true that we are born, we live and eventually we die. The point of it all is the living part. Living our lives doesn’t necessarily mean that we have to travel the world, ride an elephant, find a cure for cancer, go to Mars, write the most amazing novel, paint a picture that changes the world, or save the environment. It can be enough to simply live our lives well.

Living our lives means just that; living it. Oscar Wilde once said, “be yourself. Everyone else is taken.” As no one can be you but you, live life as best you can. That is the point.