I have a confession to make: I am a former (and trying hard not to be a present) string puller. When I think of all the time and effort that I put into trying to manipulate people and circumstances into what I wanted, I can only laugh at my idiocy.
What a wasted effort it is to try to wrestle things into the way we feel that they should go! Honestly, it’s like that old saying that you can’t teach a pig to sing—it wastes your time and annoys the pig.
So, what do we do when we feel that we must run everything ourselves; when we try to pull our own strings? Certainly we can do lots of positive things for ourselves on a daily basis; eat healthy food, drink lots of water, do moderate exercise a few times a week, maintain our homes, vehicles, etc.
But what about those things that are not so positive that we do to ourselves?
What about all the worrying we do? I don’t know about you, but when I allow my mind to spin out of control, then visions of home invasions, terrorism, hurricanes, hacked bank accounts, lost pets, deadly diseases, a huge meteor smashing into the earth, crop failures and the zombie apocalypse dance crazily in my head. (Well, not all at once—that really would be nuts!)
Since I can let myself become a card-carrying over-thinker, here are some things I’ve learned that really do help:
- I’ve said this before and still stand by it; call on good old archangel Michael for help. My morning plea to him is always this: “dear archangel Michael, please take any bothersome, worrisome, disturbing thoughts out of my head and keep them out, please.” Just saying this out loud creates comfort; you have done something to drive the spooks out of your head, and you will feel better just knowing that.
- Clear yourself: either sitting or standing, bring your left hand up to your right shoulder and brush down the length of your arm to your fingertips. Repeat on the other side. Now use your left hand to “pop” energy out of each finger on your right hand; just hold the end of each finger and perform a short pulling motion (that’s the “pop”) on each finger. Repeat on the other side. This releases energy and helps clear your mind. You may also place one hand on the top of your head, put your fingers together (as you would if you were picking a flower) and press down. Now pull your fingers up to “pop” energy from your crown chakra.
- Say to yourself at least 15 times out loud, “all is well.” Simple, but effective.
Let’s face it, things aren’t always going to go our way; that’s how life is. The trick of it all is to learn from what first appears as a setback. Example: when I was let go from my job last September, I was hurt, angry and upset that no one would tell me what I had done wrong (if indeed I did do anything wrong). Quite frankly, it hurt my feelings and made me doubt my skills.
Well, I chewed on that for months. But I knew pretty quickly that losing that job was a gift from the Universe. Mom had just been placed in home hospice, and Dad and I were caring for her.
There is no way I could have kept that job and helped my mom and dad. Losing that job was a gift and a blessing. It was just as if some intelligence had said, ‘ok, you are going to be very busy for a while, and you need to clear your time to be with your folks now.’
Because I lost that job, I had many lovely days and nights with my mom and dad. I was able to help out and support my dad, the main care taker; as well as spend precious time with my mom. I can honestly say that I am grateful to have lost that job; I would have missed out on so much. Besides, what’s more important; family or a job?
So how about we all just stop pulling our own strings. There are a great many positive things that we can do for ourselves, but when things become overwhelming, we need not worry. Worrying without a plan is time-wasting and just fritters away our lives.
When I hear or read anything disturbing, I ask myself if there is anything that I can do about it. Nine times out of ten, there isn’t. So then why worry about it? Be informed, be aware, be careful, be smart, certainly.
But let’s leave those strings of ours alone, shall we?